![]() ![]() I personally do it because it makes me feel good.ĭear Southerner: When you greet someone in a professional context, making yourself feel good should not be your objective. No one questions it, and it is not a sign that we are demeaning or talking down to someone. It doesn’t matter if they are young, middle-aged or elderly. In the South, we call everyone sweetie and honey. If someone said that to me over here, male or female it would be meant in a sorta degrading, down-looking kind of way. We would never expect a woman to tolerate such belittling if the tables were turned, and it should never be acceptable when directed to adults.ĭear Amy: It’s obvious to me that the gentleman who hates being called “sweetie” and “honey” does not live in the South. These are elders who deserve respect for their lived experiences, rather than be infantilized from our perception of fragility. These are officers, teachers, doctors, mothers and fathers. I bet he has used a term of endearment himself a time or two, and when it is coming from an older gentleman toward a younger woman, it is creepy, not condescending, as you seemed to think.ĭear Amy: If the older man called a younger woman “sweetie,” we would jump to call that inappropriate.Īs a nurse I get very upset at co-workers who call grown adults such familiar and childish terms. Maybe he should listen to how he addresses people when he is out. The majority of these “sweeties” come from men in the age group of the elder man who wrote to you. I cannot count how many times I am called “sweetie,” “honey,” “dear,” and even “love” in a workday! When healthcare providers refuse to honor their ethics to treat patients with respect, I complain to their supervisor.ĭear Amy: I work in a credit union, interacting with our members every day. One EMT guy got so mad he walked off, saying, “I can’t help her.” (What? You can’t start my IV without calling me “sweetie”?) Indeed,” as a customer, he is entitled to write a customer experience comment, with hopes that the owners or managers of the business will respond.ĭear Amy: As a nurse anesthetist for 35 years, I recall the Professionalism 101 class where we were taught that all patients should be addressed by their title, unless they request otherwise.Īs a patient I’ve more than once been called “sweetie” and “honey,” and each time I look them in the eye and quietly respond, “Please, call me Linda.”Įvery single time, the person who called me “sweetie” or “honey” gets mad! She has said that this trend is a problem and that managers have chosen not to address the use of respectful nouns/pronouns.Īs for “Mr. I have a sister who has since retired from a high administrative position. As a term of endearment thats been used for decades, it has a. Saying, “Hello!” and “Thank you, have a nice day!” seems to be sufficient. Sweetie is vanilla, its steady, a surefire hit its the Tom Hanks of boyfriend nicknames. Showing respect to others is at the forefront of my mind and training. I will never address anyone as “honey,” “sweetie,” “dear,” etc. I plan on posting the query from “Sweetie” at my workplace.ĭear Amy: I have worked as a nursing assistant and in retail food service. ![]()
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